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Going Back and it will be Better

Few months ago, I was devastated, I was crushed, and I even said that: "I will move on" and "I will never come back".

These are the lines that we utter whenever we get hurt for some reason, normal lang naman ito. Maaring bugso ng damdamin pero we don't mean it, or we say it and mean it at the same time. Totoo pala yung minsan yung "kakainin mo din ang sinasabi mo" because I myself have said things but I take it back right now.

I took it back hindi lang dahil sa gusto kong mangyari ang gusto ko, or nanghihinayang ako sa mga nainvest ko nung time na yun but because I felt that God wants me to do it and He did something to make me believe that everything that are happening right now are real and it is from Him. Yung mga bagay na ayaw ko, na ikina give up ko at yung mga bagay na nakasakit sa akin in the past, are happening the other way around at present. As in lahat and I thank God because He granted my prayer in His perfect time.

People (in general) may not really understand the objective of going back. Madalas sabihin:

• "Ginawa na noon, gagawin uli yan"
• "Masasaktan ka lang uli"
• "Hindi mo mababago ang isang tao"

So on and so forth. We should understand why they react that way lalo na pag malapit sayo yung mga taong nagsasabi nyan, pero kung eps lang, why care with their opinions? Hehe. Anyway.  When my friends encounter the same problems, I say the same thing but it changes KUNG may pagbabago at kung may napatunayan na.

Pananaw ko kasi is this:

We will never be contented, parati tayo may mga "checklist" for us to be truly happy and satisfied, but we have a choice to love and accept the person we already found!

Because sooner or later, if we chose them despite what happened, they will realize a lot of things and eventually change FOR US. And it is a great feeling actually because from there you have a proof that they will take risks and step a little bigger for the people they love. 

Don't get me wrong or anything, kung talaga namang sukdulan na yung ginawa sayo, kaya naman na natin pag desisyunan yun if we will forgive and go back or the other way around, you just need to pray for the right sign and right person. :) 

I thank God for the numerous signs and answered prayers. You truly know how to surprise me => 

 

Dreams. How do you Interpret it?

Last night, I had the weirdest and scariest dream! Hindi ako yung madalas na nanaginip, kadalasan, mabababaw lang, and last night's dream caught my attention, why? 

FALLING TEETH! It came to a point that the left side of my mouth (inside) was falling apart. Bungal. Walang ipin! Hindi nakakatuwa. 

Naalala ko pa nga while it was happening, sabi ko sana panaginip lang ito kasi sabi nila may mamamatay daw pag ganun yung panaginip, so I did a little research. 

Dream Interpretation #1: Teeth falling out in dreams symbolize insecurities

 

Dream analysts often associate the imagery of teeth falling out with the idea of loss and important life changes. This symbol points to feelings of insecurity or vulnerability regarding a recent event that disrupted your life.

For instance, you could have this type of dream as you are moving, changing jobs, ending a relationship or starting a new one, taking on new responsibilities in your life, etc. These are important life changes that may be reflected in your dream as a traumatic or scary event such as seeing your teeth fall out.


 Well, this is quite true for me. 

• Ending a relationship-- nah, other way around. I was abandoned. :,(
• Changing jobs- could be. From HR to becoming a businesswoman newbie to plans of going back to HR if God will allow it, of course if the business is already stable.
• Taking on new responsibilities- since I am starting to locate another site for my business or transfer its location to a better and more accessible one.
• Plans of studying is on my list also!

Trauma yung una, it just doesn't show (anymore) because I am a strong woman. I learned to love myself more, rather than hurting it by crying and wallowing in self pity. It would be unfair to God because He has surrounded with beautiful and wonderful blessings which I might not be able to see and appreciate if I just focus on my problem/s.

The last three, I see it as exciting challenges not as a dilemma. Biro mo, magawa ko yang tatlong yan, pwede nakong kandidato sa pagiging superwoman! Haha. And I'm willing to take risks. Taking risks teach us how to grow. We fall, we rise, we learn :)

Anyway, what are the other common dreams that have Interpretations?

1. Animals often represent the part of your psyche that feels connected to nature and survival. Being chased by a predator suggests you're holding back repressed emotions like fear or aggression.
2. Babies can symbolize a literal desire to produce offspring, or your own vulnerability or need to feel loved. They can also signify a new start.
3. Being chased is one of the most common dream symbols in all cultures. It means you are feeling threatened, so reflect on who is chasing you (they may also be symbolic) and why they are a possible threat in real life.
4. Clothes make a statement about how we want other people to perceive us. If you dream symbol is shabby clothing, you may feel unattractive or worn out. Changing what you wear may reflect a lifestyle change.
5. Crosses are interpreted subjectively depending on your religious beliefs. Some see it as symbolizing balance, death, or an end to a particular phase of life. The specific circumstances will help define these dream symbols.
6. Exams can signify self-evaluation, with the content of the exam reflecting the part of your personality or life under inspection.
7. Death of a friend or loved one represents change (endings and new beginnings) and is not a paranormal prediction of any kind. If you are recently bereaved, it may be an attempt to come to terms with the event. 
8. Falling is a common dream symbol that relates to our anxieties about letting go, losing control over a situation, or somehow failing after a success.
9. Faulty machinery in dreams is often caused by your language centers being shut down while asleep, making it difficult to dial a phone, read the time, or search the internet. It can also represent performance anxiety in life. 
10. Food is said to symbolize knowledge, because it nourishes the body just as information nourishes the brain. Food for thought?
    Demons are sneaky evil entities which signify repressed emotions. You may secretly feel the need to change your own behaviors for the better.
11. Hair has significant ties with sexuality, according to Freud. Abundant hair may symbolize virility, while cutting hair off in a dream shows a loss of libido. Hair loss may also express a literal fear of going bald or becoming unattractive.
12. Hands are always present in dreams but when they are tied up it may represent feelings of futility. Washing your hands may express guilt. Looking closely at your hands in a dream is a good way to become lucid. 
13. Houses can host many common dream symbols, but the building as a whole represents your inner psyche. Each room or floor can symbolize different emotions, memories and interpretations of meaningful events.
14. Killing in your dreams does not make you a closet murderer; it represents your desire to "kill" part of your own personality. It can also symbolize hostility towards a particular person and the desire to see them suffer.
15. Marriage may be a literal desire to wed or a merging of the feminine and masculine parts of your psyche.
16. Missing a flight or any other kind of transport is another popular dream, showing your frustration over possibly missing out on important opportunities in life. It's most common when you're struggling to make a big decision.
17. Money can symbolize self worth. If you dream of exchanging money, it may show that you're anticipating some changes in your life.
18. Mountains are obstacles, so to dream of successfully climbing a mountain can reveal a true feeling of achievement. Viewing a landscape from atop a mountain can symbolize a life under review without conscious prejudice.
19. Nudity is one of the most common dream symbols, revealing your true self to others. You may feel vulnerable and exposed to others. Showing off your nudity may suggest sexual urges or a desire for recognition.
20. People (other dream characters) are reflections of your own psyche, and may demonstrate specific aspects of your own personality.
21. Radios and TVs can symbolize communication channels between the conscious and subconscious minds. When lucid, ask them a question...
22. Roads, aside from being literal manifestations, convey your direction in life. This may be time to question your current "life path".
23. Schools are common dream symbols in children and teenagers but what about dreaming of school in adulthood? It may display a need to know and understand yourself, fueled by life's own lessons.
24. Sex dreams can symbolize intimacy and a literal desire for sex. Or they may demonstrate the unification of unconscious emotions with conscious recognition, showing a new awareness and personal growth.
25. Teachers, aside from being literal manifestations of people, can represent authority figures with the power to enlighten you.
26. Teeth are common dream symbols. Dreaming of losing your teeth may show a hidden fear of getting old and being unattractive to the opposite sex.
27. Being trapped (physically) is a common nightmare theme, reflecting your real life inability to escape or make the right choice.
28. Vehicles may reflect how much control you feel you have over your life - for instance is the car out of control, or is someone else driving you?
29. Water comes in many forms and can symbolize the subconscious mind. Calm pools of water reflect inner peace while a choppy ocean can suggest unease. 

So there, I hope this might help you with your dreams. This MIGHT be true, but it is still US who'll make the final interpretation, besides, tayo naman gumagawa ng desisyon at landas na tatahakin natin. LALIM!!! :)) 

Source: http://www.world-of-lucid-dreaming.com/30-common-dream-symbols.html

Business took Over

As far as I can remember, It's been 4 months since my last entry. Hindi ko naman ikakaila na naging busy ako with "THE" Business that we've been waiting for almost 2 years. 2 years kasi we made a reservation dun sa commercial space 2 years ago. Same thing, I also franchised 2 years ago.

Akala namin hindi na matutuloy. Well sa pagkakakilala ko sa sarili ko, I'm good in waiting, if I feel that it's worth waiting for.

January 2013, the lessor said that we can already start with the construction kasi may permit na yung building (SA WAKAS!). Fast track lahat, starting with the construction, pagbili ng supplies, paghahanap ng empleyado, and pag rresign must all be planned and done in a month!

Just to give you an idea, I would like to share what i know. Hindi naman ako expert. I'm new at this. I did not even planned where I am right now, it just happened. Kaya for those people who wants to put up a business of their own, hope this would help

THE PROCESS

1. LOCATION- Location is very important. Nagkalat diyan ang mga samu't saring food carts or even those companies who offers franchise business, but how sure are you that it'll earn kung wala kang STRATEGIC LOCATION? You may have the best products, pero for example sa tabi ng school mo siya ilalagay, sa tuwing walang pasok, bakasyon ng mga bata, konti ang enrolless, it may not earn as much kasi limited to students lang.

My business is located along Marcos Highway cor. Ligaya. Sakayan siya ng mga empleyado, students, all sorts of people going to and from Pasig, Antipolo, Marikina, Rizal. With these kind of customers, mawalan man ng pasok ang mga studyante, meron paring empleyado or yung mga nagagawi lang sa lugar kasi dun ang sakayan. And that's what I meant about Location, hindi namimili ng pagbibilhan kasi open sa lahat. 

Pwedeng sa palengke, terminal, malls, simbahan, community na talagang ma tao. Don't limit yourself sa bahay lang, wala ka ngang binabayarang upa pero matao naman ba?

2. PRODUCT - Kahit anong ibenta mo, basta may customer ka, walang problema. Although food ang naisip ko because it's a necessity. Lahat ng tao nagugutom every day. May maamoy ka lang na mabango, maski hindi ka gutom ma eengganyo ka, mapapabili ka. Sa location na napili ko, since terminal siya, mahirap sumakay dun, sabi namin ng Nanay ko, habang naghihintay ka ng masasakyan, eh kaysa tumayo ka diyan, kakain nalang muna ako. 

Product may also mean pagkain na mabilis kainin, mabilis iprepare kasi ng nagmamadali yung mga tao dahil pag dumating na yung jeep, tatakbo na yan. Kaya I chose siopao, siomai, and fried noodles. It's healthy, nakakabusog, and madali kainin kahit na naka tayo ka or nasa jeep. 

For example your location is sa palengke, mga customer mo ay mga nanay, mostly. Kung ako nanay, busy ako sa mga anak ko at sa trabaho, wala nakong time magluto, hahanap ako ng pwedeng bilhan ng pagkain na ready to eat! Merong franchise dyan na rice in a box, or siomai na issteam mo lang, ulam na! 

Or if you belong in a huge community, may tricycle terminal dyan for sure, it's either you cater to their hungry tummies OR sell motor parts kasi meron at meron masisiraan ng tricycle dyan. That's a great business also. 

Think of real scenarios :)

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3. FINANCIALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY READY ka na ba?  

-Aba napaka importante nito. It will take MOST of your time lalo na pag magsstart ka palang. Hindi naman pwedeng absent ka ng absent para makakuha ng permits*, pag may hindi ka nagampanang agenda for the day iiyak ka, or pag napuyat or napagod ka, magmamaktol ka at susuko, minsan magkakasakit pa. 

*Permits:

a. DTI

b. Mayor's Permit

c. Brgy Clearance

d. Health Certificate

When the time came na kailangan ko na ifastrack lahat dahil kailangan ko na kumita bago pa man ako singilin sa renta, I knew that I have to resign from work. With the stress sa work plus yung stress pa pag sstart ng business, sasabog ka talaga. At least, I was able to focus on the things that need to be done, ano yung mga kulang, ano pa yung mga kailangan, I can interview applicants anytime. I can run my errands for the permits that I need to accomplish before opening, etc. It really takes a lot of hardwork and patience because not everything turns out well everyday. 

Financially ready, I am so blessed that my Mother helped me out. And with my little savings, kahit paano nakatulong din naman sa pag bili bili. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, once na magstart nakong kumita, dapat hindi na ako maglalabas ng pera o magaabono, dapat lahat manggaling na sa kita. Mahirap kasi mag abono, eh paano kung walang wala ka ng pang abono? Nakakahiya naman kung mangungutang ka. I'm just so thankdul na so far, wala na akong inaabonohan. And I'm praying na mag tuloy tuloy :) 

Ano ano ba mga kailangan bayaran at paghandaan financially?

1. Deposit and Advance rental payment

2. Supplies

3. Stocks

4. Payment sa mga Permits

5. Transportation expenses

6. Store/ Cart Improvement

7. Pasahod sa mga gumagawa ng store mo

 

Puyat at pagod ang magiging kalaban mo talaga pero if you love what you do, hindi mo na mararamdaman yun, kung baga matutulog kang nakangiti because you know you did a great job. It was a huge adjustment for me because I was hired as Part Time pa din in the same company. My store closes at 12mn, I have to go to work the following day at 8 am- 5pm, go to the store til 12mn. Naging ganun ang takbo ng buhay ko for the past months. But now that I am almost fully resigned, I was able to give more time for my business.   

4. NOW... WHAT'S YOUR GOAL?

Hindi pwedeng na establish mo na, dun nalang iikot lahat. Set your goal, what's next for you? Let's say kumikita ka na, ano gagawin mo sa pera? Ako naman, simple lang ang gusto ko everyday, na maka quota para hindi ko mapabayaan ang mga obligasyon ko like yung renta, kuryente, tubig, pasahod, pagbilig ng stocks and supplies. Mag breakeven lang, sa madaling salita. Long term goal ko is to branch out. And I know that this is not impossible kung alam mo sa sarili mong nagsisikap ka. 

 
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With this experience, I am just so thankful to God first of all for letting this happen. Sabi ko nga kung para sa akin, ibibigay nya to sa akin, sobra nalang kasi ang passion ko for this one. Sabi nila "may mga tauhan ka naman, bakit ikaw pa ang nagbebenta/ nagluluto?"

Sagot ko: "Eh dito ako masaya eh." 

Ayoko naman iasa lahat sa mga tao dahil ikaw mismo dapat alam mo ang ginagawang proseso ng pagluluto, pagssteam, paghahanda, Ayoko din naman mag panic pag may absent na isa, mas lalo akong masstress. Huwag kang maging mangmang sa sarili mong business, diba. Proud lang ako sa sarili ko kasi ang dami kong natututunan bawat araw. And as promised kay God, hindi ko ito pababayaan. 

Salamat din sa Nanay ko na sobra nalang ang suporta sa naging desisyon ko. Di bale, babawi ako, hindi man sa malalaking paraan pero sisiguraduhin kong magsisikap ako dahil yan ang tinuro nya sa akin :) 

There's nothing wrong being an employee, but if you can afford to also put up a business while working, better. Iba kasi talaga yung fulfillment and joy once you have your own. :) 

VCF Robinson's Pioneer: Singles Talk. Marriage

Yesterday, March 20, 2013 (Thursday), I had a very busy day. Since I am an employee cum employer, I had to deal with both every single day and I am truly grateful that something’s keeping me busy these days. I need it, actually.

Towards the afternoon, my friend (our guidance counselor) mentioned something about VCF’s (Victory) talk that same day and she was undecided that time if she’ll be attending or not. So I asked:

“Ano ba yung topic nila?”

“Singles talk. Marriage” (Since she’ll be getting married soon!)

I said: “Tara punta tayo mukhang maganda”

It was my first time to attend, to be honest. I was curious and I find it interesting because of their topics that I kept on seeing in a mall near our place. I did not have a chance to try it before because I became too busy with things.

As I entered:  “Daming  tao”

                     “Puro yuppies”

                    “Karamihan mga babae halos” was my first reaction (well maybe because of the topic). I felt welcomed, kahit na wala naman akong kakilala except for my friend. I felt that this was a good decision, kahit na hindi ko naman alam ang mangyayari.

Anyway, the topic was about “Marriage”. In an hour, I LEARNED A LOT from our speakers who’ve been married for 6 years--- both pastors.  And I just want to share their thoughts on relationships and marriage in general:

·         “When you talk about marriage, it means, it’s a LIFETIME you are talking about”

-           That no matter how long you’ve waited for that person, you’ll be fine because in the end, regardless of the wait for the right person to come, you know that he/she is the one that is given to us by God.

·         “Being in love means: You don’t care about what is going to happen between the two of you, all you know is that you just want to BE WITH THAT PERSON for the rest of your life”

-          Pastor Patrick said: “Pag nag propose ba ang lalaki at sinabing WILL YOU MARRY ME, alam ba niya talaga ang salitang Marriage?”

-          “At pag um-oo ba ang babae sa sagot na iyon, alam ba ng babae kung ano ang marriage at kung bakit niya sinagot yun?”

-          Ang sagot: HINDI. Walang alam ang lalaki at babae that moment sa marriage kasi hindi pa naman nila ito napagdaanan, magsisimula pa lang sila, pero, maski hindi nila alam ang kahihinatnan nila once they get married, they’re still going to do it because they just want to be in each other’s lives forever.

·         “You will find the perfect person that God has for you---that God has prepared for you”

·       

  MARRIAGE 123: The basics and the secret to a happy relationship in marriage”

1.       “GOAL OF MARRIAGE IS TO BECOME ONE”

-     Marriage is a journey of two individual persons--- a man and a woman

-     Be UNITED- hindi yung nagsasarili ka sa decision mo because remember, you have a partner to share it with, always consider your partner's feelings, emotions, or even opinion/s. Let him/ her be a part of it.

-    There’s a part in your partner which you cannot change, let’s say a habit, but no matter how irritating, annoying, or disappointing that is, ACCEPT your partner

-          In marriage, the word “me” must no longer exist, instead, you’ll be using “US”. 

-          Example: Ang perang kinikita ko, akin lang. Bibili ako ng ganito, ganyan, pero pag kinasal na or two individuals are serious with each other, “Yung kita ko para sa pamilya ko”

-          Marriage is about GIVING UP YOU OWN LIFE FOR THE OTHER PERSON: Since you are considered as ONE, ang mga nagagawa mo dati magisa, you’ll be sharing all those with a partner--- not considering it as a sacrifice but rather out of willingness to do so. 

-          When you’re in the process of dating, courtship, boyfriend/girlfriend, it is the SEASON OF KNOWING” : Once you’re with someone, get to know the person, ano ang ugali niya, hilig niya, interest, para masabayan mo siya at matanong mo sa sarili mo kung yun ba ang gusto mo makasama habang buhay.

2.       “UNDERSTANDING TWO UNIQUE ROLES”

-          Being married is not something you’ve earned, but a decision to become a wife/ husband

-          WOMEN:

a.       Submit yourselves to your husband as how you submit yourself to God

b.      Women are created to be a “helpful partner”, that is, a suitable helper to your husband

c.       Ang mga babae, kaya nandyan to help her partner become a better person because she was created that way by God

d.      Pag nagliligawan, nagiging spoiled ang babae dahil sinusuyo siya ng lalaki. Pero pag kinasal na, hindi na dapat laging magstick sa kung anong nakasanayan, dahil ang lalaki ay ginawa para maging head ng pamilya, responsibilidad ng babae na isubmit ang kanyang sarili sa kung ano ang gusto ng lalaki at hindi paiiralin ang pride.

-          MEN:

a.       Love your partner/ wife as how Christ loved the Church: Kung hindi mahal ng lalaki si God, maaring hindi niya din kayang mahalin ang babae. Dahil kung naiintindihan nya ang pagmamahal ni God sa simbahan, i-aapply niya ito sa kanyang partner/ wife.

b.      Serve your wife, be faithful, committed, and protect her.

c.       Masarap daw magmahal ang Christians dahil alam nila ito. 

3.       “A CORD OF THREE STRANDS CANNOT BE BROKEN”

-          Those three cords must be consist of the man, woman and GOD.

-          God must ONLY BE THE THIRD PERSON and that relationships must be centered to God

-          Kung hindi naka sentro si God, relationships will fail.

It was a short but totally worth it. Towards the end we were asked to group into 8 and must answer: WHAT ARE THE SKILLS THAT YOU NEED TO IMPROVE TO BE a LEADER IN MARRIAGE (MEN) AND HELPFUL PARTNERS (WOMEN)?

I answered: “EMBRACE THE IMPERFECTIONS OF THE OTHER BECAUSE WE TOO HAVE THOSE. Dahil kaya tayo ginawa at pinagtagpo para suportahan at tulungan ang isat isa, ngayon, kung tatakasan nating mga babae ang bawat makita nating mali, we’ll just end up jumping into relationships and we'll never be contented”